The Age Old Question

There are a few questions I get asked repeatedly by people who write to me, message me, etc. One of the more recent ones is “How long do you plan on being a spanking model?” Often times, I'll get comments on how young I am and asked if I was spanked when I was a child. It got me thinking about the age factor and just how it plays into this kink of ours.

I've heard from several people that in the spanking video business, a woman can only model as a bottom until a certain age before she has to start topping. I don't like that idea. I don't have anything against female tops, but I'm certainly not one of them. It's unfortunate that there's an age limit of female bottoms in videos, but it's not realistic in the real world. I know that when I'm ninety years old, I'll still have the desire to be spanked. Hopefully I can find some willing gentleman then, but we'll see. Speaking of gentleman, how unfair is it that they're still in their spanking prime much later in life? Such injustice in this world.

Anyway, back to the present. It's a week after the start of my discipline diary, and I've been doing pretty well. Not perfect, though, and I didn't follow every rule completely. Danny and I sat down yesterday to go over my list, and I was punished for not completing all of it. How was I punished, you may ask? Well, we decided to turn the camera on during our discussion, so you can see it at our Clips4Sale store. There should be a preview posted soon on Spankingtube as well.

Here's me being in a less remorseful mood after my spanking when Danny was trying to take my picture. :-)

My most recent shoot with RealSpankings was a lot of fun, and I got to see their beautiful new studio, a lovely mansion with an outdoor pool and lots of acreage for outdoor shoots! I got to play a schoolgirl and a naughty french maid who is made to cut a switch from outside. I'll write more on that, and more Clips4Sale updates in another post.

Hope everyone had a spanktastic weekend! Oh, by the way. . . I love getting comments, just so everyone knows. :-)

Discipline Diary

September has been a stressful month at school, and it's the first time I've had to juggle my academic life with my less-vanilla, online life. I realize, of course, that academics need to be my first priority. Senior year would be a bad time to start slacking!

But doing spanking blogs and videos is something I enjoy a lot, and don't want to give up. With all of that in mind, I decided to ask Danny for some help in managing my time and keeping me motivated so that I can get everything done without having to give things up. We decided that I would start keeping track of this through a discipline diary.

I've already blogged about the various types of spankings that exist, and discipline is a big one. I've heard a lot of people say that spanking can't be used to effectively discipline a spanko, because they enjoy it too much. I think there is some truth to that, but I don't completely agree.

For me, knowing that someone is keeping track of what I do and holding me accountable to the goals I set for myself is both comforting and helpful. I can tell myself that I will get my essay done by Friday, but then easily make an excuse and give myself too much slack. If someone else knows what I need to be doing, I'm more likely to get it done. Exercising regularly is easier if you do it with a friend, and I see this in much the same way. If I don't follow the rules I've laid out, there is an added element of guilt because I am disappointing myself.

I had already been given a few rules by my friend Malignus, and I told Danny everything I wanted to focus on for this semester specifically. Together, we made 5 rules that I will be held accountable for:

1. 5 minutes or more playing guitar, 4 days a week.

2. 1 hour of productive school-related work every day.

3. 1 blog entry per week, and 1 hour of maintenance / replies to blog comments.

4. Once a week, log in to both bank accounts, review card activity, pay bills if necessary.

5. 6 meals per week must be made at home.

I'm happy with this list because the rules are not too overwhelming, and they cover some basic problems I've been having with procrastination and time management. Number one is there because I've wanted to play guitar (I used to play the violin) for a long time and have trouble remembering to practice. The others are pretty self explanatory. So now that I've posted them here, more people can help to keep me accountable!

Danny has said that he will check in once a week and I will keep track of things in a journal. If I'm not doing so well, you can probably guess what happens. We'll see if it helps. :-)

Have any of you tried something similar to this, and has it been effective? I hope everyone's weekend was great. Danny and I went to a small, local spanking party Friday night, and it was a lot of fun catching up with a few Shadow Laners and getting to play. Back to school tomorrow!

More Tidbits

I know, all this Shadow Lane talk is probably getting old, but I forgot to mention a few things:

Last Monday, when we were still in Vegas, Danny and I met up with Kyle and Kat to do some videos for Clips4Sale. We all had a great time and got some excellent footage with lots of variety: Danny and Kyle spanking Kat and I, and Paul (the wonderful host of many a SL suite party) spanking me.

Speaking of that last one, Kyle just posted it on Spankingtube, so people can go and see it for free. We had a lot of fun with that one, and I play the part of an innocent church-going girl who answers a Craigslist ad to keep Paul company. He asked for a girl who likes OTK, but I'm far too innocent to know anything about that (yeah, unlikely, but enjoy!). There's great spanking in it, too. :-)
Also, a new clip is now up on Clips4Sale. It doesn't include me, but it's a great video (also taken during Shadow Lane) starring Danny and Lily Starr. In this one, Danny spanks Lily for being too promiscuous at her first spanking party and agreeing to play with all the creepy guys (who definitely made an appearance during the party, but I won't name names!). She gets a hard hand spanking and then the belt, and it's in high definition, too!

And as long as you're in a spanking video mood, check out my latest update on RealSpankingInstitute, where I get the belt for sneaking into a back room with another student, Monica. My next shoot with them is coming up, and will be in their new studio, which has lots of opportunities for outdoor shoots!
I'm slowly getting over party drop and getting back into the swing of things. I came home to a lot of school responsibilities; I just finished writing a paper on culture and reworking my resume (I've never needed to make one until now!). Why can't life just be rainbows, gum drops, and spanking parties all the time?

Shadow Lane Party- Sunday

Danny and I lingered in bed until around 11, when we showered and went downstairs to get breakfast at Cafe Siena yet again. The staff there must have hated us. As soon as we arrived, we ran into a big group of friends and attempted to slide two tables together to accommodate everyone. A hostess quickly strolled over to rebuke us, so we sat at two different tables. After we were seated, Erica and J came in and joined us; it was great to sit and chat for a bit.

After that, we only had a little time to rest before heading to StrictDave's CP Court up in Tom's suite. It was great to watch couples accusing each other of petty crimes, and the sweetest one was when Jenni Mack accused Miss Chris of being the “best, most wonderful Ma'am ever”. The sentence was one big hug. :-)

While I was watching the Court, FiremanChris was texting me that he was almost back from the airport, and I was to meet him in his room for our scene. Danny went down to socialize at the casino's bar while I went up to Chris's room. We had a great scene, complete with a hand spanking, some corner time, and then some time with his evil wooden hairbrush. He was kind and didn't use it full force, but it still stung! It was great to relax and talk with him after, too.

I had one more pre -arranged play date before the suite parties that night, and it was with Jersey John, a good friend of Danny's who I instantly enjoyed spending time with (he had a deliciously crass sense of humor and was easy to make conversation with). I decided to head back to my room to rest a bit before that, so I got on the elevator to my floor.

As I got off, I saw Keith Jones waiting to get on. Many ladies can attest to the fact that Keith is a major heartthrob in the spanking world, and I had wanted to play with him for a long time. We had discussed it earlier, but both of us had been keeping busy. Not wanting to lose out on the opportunity, I boldly walked up to him and tapped him on the shoulder.

“When are we going to play?”

“Are you busy now?”

“No.”

“Alright, then, let's go to my room.”

And off we went to his room, where we had a pleasant conversation and I went over his knee for a wonderfully relaxing and gentle hand spanking. Just what I wanted. :-)

I made it back to the room in time for Jersey John to stop by and escort me to his room. We chatted and he fed me chocolate chip cookies (I immediately liked him a lot more). I went over his knee and he spanked me with his hand (which was huge and heavy, and felt very hard on my already sore bottom!) and I got a little with his hairbrush too.

When we had finished, John and I met Danny and GenSass down in Matt's suite, where we relaxed for a while before going down to eat dinner with a large, fun group at the Mexican place in the Casino. I was already feeling tired by this point, but there was still one more night of suite parties to go. Up in our room, I changed into a plaid, woolen mini skirt along with a black top and patent leather heels.

Soon after arriving in Tom's suite, Tony (the organizer of FMS, not Shadow Lane) asked if I would like a caning. I had done well in pacing myself with hand-only spankings, so I was ready to play a little harder, and agreed to the caning.

I was bent over the back of the couch, my skirt lifted, and before I knew it I glanced back to see that Danny had also grabbed a cane; the two of them were switching off the cane strokes! It turned into a competition of sorts, seeing which of them could hit the exact same spot two times in a row. Bill joined in after a bit and each of them gave me a few final, hard strokes. I sat with Danny on the couch and cuddled a bit after, but then I was up and socializing again.

I think it was about this time in the evening that I was chatting with Erica and J and decided that Erica should get spanked by Danny once again (she did get me in trouble on the first night,after all). So, being the helpful girl that I am, I handed her a glass of water and pointed to Danny, who was behind the bar at the time. Erica flicked some of the water in his face and within seconds she was being pulled off of her stool and bent over the couch.

Meanwhile, I sat with J who was giving me a hard time about “throwing his girlfriend under the bus.” He then proceeded to grab a pile of canes from a nearby table and pass them out to all the Tops, telling them to take a turn on Erica. I stopped him and said, “And you said it was ME throwing her under the bus?”

I got a couple more fun hand spankings before heading to Paul's suite, where they were playing a game of Spanko Blackjack. I joined in for a while, and Danny came into the suite shortly after with AZ Carolyn. I remember starting to feel worn out around then, but I was hesitant to end the night because it was the last party, and I wanted to make the most of it!

At some point, Erica and J came in to the room, and things began to wind down. After lots of hugs and goodbyes in the room and at the elevator, Danny and I collapsed into bed once more.

While most people were already gone or leaving early Monday morning, our flight wasn't until late Monday evening, so we had the whole next day to pack up, meet with a few friends, and do some shooting for Clips4Sale. I will write about that in my next post!

I did want to quickly thank everyone who made my first Shadow Lane experience such an amazingly unforgettable one. I didn't get to play with everyone I wanted to and I would have loved to have more talking time with people, but I fit in what I could and I'm very happy with how it worked out. I miss everyone already and can't wait to do it again. :-D

Shadow Lane Party- Saturday

Sorry for the delay in getting these out, guys, I was swamped with schoolwork immediately after returning from this wonderful trip! Please “bare” with me. ;-)

Danny woke me up around 11 am and suggested we go down to the hot tub before breakfast, which sounded like a good idea until I actually walked outside and hit the wall of heat. Something about this party I noticed right away was that it was all very contained in the hotel. Everything we could ever want or need was right there: casino, bowling alley, bar, several restaurants, even a movie theater. I probably exited the building only twice the entire weekend.

Anyway, GenSass, her hubby, and Gia met us down by the hot tub. We all decided within seconds that we should switch over to the cold pool, and so we all rambunctiously splashed around (actually, I sat quietly on the edge like a good girl while Danny doused water on innocent bystanders) before deciding to get some breakfast at Cafe Siena.

Back up in our room, I showered and changed into a purple and gray sundress before we headed up to the SSNY suite for their afternoon party. It was a great crowd, and they played some of their hilarious spoof videos in which a spanking bottom gets violated, and then another one about bratting. As I sat at a table and chatted with Iggy and Sarah, I was texting Fireman Chris, who I had chatted with for a long time before the party. We were both eager to set up a play date, so I told him where the room was and he arrived a little later.

The scene we had discussed was a discipline scene, and we had agreed to make it private so I could better get into the head space. Since everyone was still in suite party mode, though, we decided to save the discipline part for later and Chris instead found an empty spot on one of the beds to give me a quick hand spanking (which are, as everyone knows, the best kind of introduction!). Afterward, I mingled a bit more and ran into Sarah again

She had just finished playing with Djinn, whom she highly recommended. Never being one to to ignore a good Spanker recommendation, I walked up to Djinn and chatted a bit, which ultimately resulted in me being led down to his room for a play session. That guy really had a way of getting into my head and making me feel ten times smaller than I already am, and I came out of it feeling very blissful and wobbly.

Danny tracked me down again, and we headed up to our room to lay down for a bit and get dressed for the formal dinner. The theme for the night was Mad Men, and I wore a yellow and black 60's style dress that I paired with Hounds-tooth heels and some pearl earrings that Danny had bought for me down in the hotel gift shop (I know. What a charmer). :-)

The dinner was great, there was good food, better company, and some fun dancing going on. At one point, Danny dragged me over to a chair next to the dance floor and turned me over his knee for a brisk hand spanking. You would think that would get a few looks, but it's funny how normal it becomes for a spanking to occur anywhere on these weekends!

After dinner, it was time to hit up the suite parties once again. We started off in the Northern Spanking suite, where I chatted with Paul, Stephen, and Leia Ann Woods. They were all lovely to talk with as always, and Paul told me he would love to shoot with me if they came back next year. I told him that sounded like a lot of fun. :-)

We ended up back in Tom's suite, where everyone tended to gather toward the end of the night. I was sitting on the couch talking to Ann, a woman who had come to Shadow Lane for the first time, when StrictDave came to sit next to me and asked if I was ready to play.

I had heard excellent things about his spanking style, so I had asked him early on if he would be willing to play when he had the chance. Both him and I were eager to do a discipline scene, so I briefly told him about some issues I was having (procrastination, having trouble saying “no”, really any excuse to get spanked) and he pulled me over his lap. He spanked me firmly with his hand, pausing intermittently to lecture and rub a bit. It was great fun!

I was feeling pretty sore by this point (I should point out that I was very careful to rub lotion into my bottom and use ice each night before bed), but I had my eye on one last play date before the night was over, and that was the infamous flogger Fineous. We went into a bedroom and I sprawled out on my stomach while he worked his magic, flogging from my toes to my neck. I was nearly snoring by the time he was done, so after we said our good nights, Danny and I headed up to the room to rest up for the next day.

Shadow Lane Party- Friday

I think a layer of my skin may have been spanked off. But oh, was it worth it! I am slowly coming down from a wonderful weekend in Vegas, meeting so many people who I hope to remain friends with for a long time. Danny and I woke up at the crack of dawn on Friday to catch our plane, and we arrived at the SunCoast Hotel around nine in the morning. Danny immediately ran into some of his friends (the man knows EVERYONE there) and we had a low-key lunch.

While we were eating, a man approached our table and asked if I was Sophie. It was Michael, a fan of the RealSpankings sites who I had been emailing back and forth with for a while before the party. It is always nice to be able to put a face to the conversations! Afterward, we went up to the room to nap in anticipation of the festivities that would be keeping us up late. I had heard enough about these parties to know that I could not get through them without staying well rested!

I've also heard others say what a blur the parties are, and it's true. Though I had a great time with each person I played with, I can't for the life of me remember each one perfectly, so I may leave some people out; please forgive me if I do, as it's nothing personal! After our nap, Danny and I headed down to the casino's coffee shop, where there was a small gathering of people from the WorldSpankingForum (organized by Michael). We chatted there for a bit before heading up to our room to shoot a clip for our store with Bill and Katee, who I had been talking with before the party as well.

I had vowed to myself that I wouldn't do a lot of shooting while at the party; I had to pace myself, after all! But Danny and I got some great spanking video footage, and the full video will be on my Clips4Sale store soon!

After that, it was time to eat a quick dinner and head up to the Vendor's Fair in the ballroom.

It was fun to walk around the booths and shake hands with some people I recognized, as well as meeting many new faces. I'd like to take a second to emphasize just how friendly the Northern Spanking Group is. They are all so pleased to be among friends and are completely courteous.

I got to briefly talk with Jules from SSNY, who told me that someone had recommended me as a possible subject for one of their discipline videos. I would have loved to take the opportunity, but I didn't want to fit that into an already spank-filled weekend. I told her I would love to if I was ever in her area. Let's see, who else? Lily Starr and Sarah Gregory both had booths and were both pleasant to chat with. I got to meet Chelsea Pfeiffer and Abigail Whittaker, both of whom I have admired from their videos.

I was REALLY excited when I saw Erica Scott and J walk in. Erica was immediately off greeting and hugging people, but Danny introduced me to J, who promptly walked me over to meet Erica. If there was one person I was looking forward to meeting the most, it was her, and I gave her a big hug. As everyone is aware, I admire this lady so much. Her wit, her sass, not to mention her legendary bionic bottom, it's all more noticeable in person! She introduced me to Andy, a lovely gentleman who I played with later that night at a suite party.

After the Vendor's Fair, we went up to our room to freshen up and headed out to the suite parties. We started out at Carolyn's suite, as it was her birthday, and then headed up to the big party in Tom's room. It was hoppin', and I got to play several times, and have a lot of playful fun, including the incident Erica writes on her blog where she poured water on Danny's head (while I was over his lap!).

We then went down to Paul's suite to end the night, and Danny went off to play with Lily while I stayed and talked. I played a few more times, including getting a few swats with a cricket bat that the other girls were afraid to try (I always love a spanking challenge!)

I can't remember a lot of other specifics, only that I felt instantly comfortable and happy with the group that was there. We stayed awake socializing until about 2:30 am, when we stumbled back up to our room. I fell asleep within seconds of hitting the pillow.

Off to Shadowlane!

This will be my last post before heading to Vegas for the big party Friday morning; I can't wait to meet some of you there! And for those of you who cannot attend, I will be sure and do a detailed write-up after the party, as do many other attendees.

Looking back, I feel very lucky to have had the opportunities in the spanking community present themselves so early on. I never would have thought that I would be attending a party like this at the age of 21, especially one that I have been reading about and wishing I could go to since the age of 15! Along with that excitement does come nerves, and I hope I can relax enough to enjoy my time there without getting too overwhelmed. We'll see!

Keep your eye out for an interview I'm planning on doing with Richard Windsor while there, as well as some new and exciting clips on my clips4sale store. Speaking of which, Danny and I just shot another one recently which is going to be really good. It's a spanking I received the day after a party we attended. I had told him I was going to find my shoes, and ten minutes later he comes out to find me distracted, cuddled up to a guy on the couch (When will I learn?) High def, lots of angles, and awesome spanking action, of course! Some previews of the clips we've done so far can be found on Spankingtube. And another great Realspankings video has been released, too. It's from the Faces series, and it's a split screen showing both my face and bottom as I am handspanked, strapped, and then caned by Danny for some real life issues.

Have a great Labor Day!

p.s. I'm packing for the weekend and just stuffed 10 pairs of panties into my suitcase. Too many? Perhaps... but better safe than sorry!